Why Do Kids Get Stuck on Certain Tasks?
February 22, 2022
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When we focus on our kids’ learning process over their final product, we can take steps to help them overcome hurdles. In our daily lives,
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3 Essential Steps to Take Before Getting Angry at Your Kids
January 19, 2022
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For parents, there is a better way to handle your own anger before you act. Many moments in parenting prompt us to move into action.
Moving Beyond “Whack-a-Mole”
July 17, 2021
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If you are reading this you are likely struggling with repeated conflicts. One moment it is about getting homework done and the next it is
Rudeness and Disrespect: What to Do and How to Manage
July 7, 2021
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I often hear aggravation from parents about their child’s “disrespect,” “rudeness,” or “cussing” when describing challenges at home. They retell stories of conflicts over technology,
From Struggles to Super-Powers: Helping Your Child Grow
July 6, 2021
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As parents, we have many goals for our child. Overall, these goals are about managing the challenges in their lives, so they can ultimately be
Creating Order in an Upside-Down World
April 2, 2020
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In the past, staying at home was a privilege, a day off, a stay-cation or just an opportunity to relax. However, we are now in
Facing onto the Rough Winds of a Challenging Time
March 27, 2020
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Debra Kessler, R.N., M.N., Psy.D For a sapling to emerge as a stable and sturdy tree, it establishes a deep root system and a
Is Your History Pulling Your Strings?
January 25, 2020
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How often have you asked yourself “Why am I acting this way?” It is not uncommon to notice that, as we look around at others
Skiing – a Metaphor for Emotional Regulation
January 25, 2020
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When we enter the world, we transition from an insulated environment to one that is full of challenges. We must learn how to navigate around
Why Validate?
March 24, 2018
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Validation is a way of letting someone know we understand him or her. Being understood is the essential ingredient to feeling connected and supported. When
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and becomes in the end an oak tree,
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