Dr. Debra Kessler Psychologist

Specializing in Children with Emotional and Developmental Challenges

Phone 818-248-6414

Making Sense of the Neurodiverse Child

Date: April 12, 2023.  Presented to: Santa Barbara Chapter of California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists https://2147e2.a2cdn1.secureserver.net/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/sbcamft.mp4

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Why Validate?

Validation is a way of letting someone know we understand him or her.  Being understood is the essential ingredient to feeling connected and supported.  When

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“Most of us have genes that make us as hardy as dandelions: able to take root and survive almost anywhere. A few of us, however, are more like the orchid: fragile and fickle, but capable of blooming spectacularly given greenhouse care.” David Dobbs
“As each plant grows from a seed
and becomes in the end an oak tree,
so man becomes what he’s meant to be.”
C.G. Jung
David Dobbs

Fostering Resilience and Making Sense of Separation and Loss

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