The Power of Visual Schedle

- by Debra Kessler, Psy.D. -

Getting out the door in the morning to get to school on time, getting to activities on time, and getting to bed on time are among the frequent friction points parents struggle with. At these moments, you default to reminding them repeatedly, which can feel like nagging. As you do this, it doesn't feel good to you and your child and doesn't help them to learn to manage themselves. Using tools like visual schedules and checklists can make a big difference for your child. Let's explore why these tools are necessary and how they can help you and your child.

What Are Executive Functions?

Executive functions are like the brain's command center. They help us plan, focus, remember things, and handle multiple tasks at once. Some kids—especially those with ADHD or learning challenges—might struggle with these skills, which can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming for both your child and you.

The Problem with Nagging

1. Feeling Anxious: Constant reminders can make kids feel stressed and anxious about tasks they must complete.

2. Building Resentment: Kids might start to feel frustrated or annoyed with you, which can hurt your relationship.

3. Relying on Others: If children always depend on reminders, they might need to learn how to manage tasks on their own.

4. You, the parent, become resentful as you carry the burden of herding your child through their day.   

The Benefits of Visual Tools

1. Clear Expectations: 

Visual schedules show your child what they need to do and when. This makes things less confusing and less stressful.

2. Encouraging Independence: 

When children have a checklist, what is expected is concrete, and they can reference it. Initially, the behaviors need to be observed by you, the parent. As they take on personal responsibility, they can check off tasks themselves. This helps them feel proud and responsible for their work.

3. Staying On Track: 

Kids can look at their visual schedule instead of waiting for reminders. This helps them stay on track and complete their tasks.

4. Learning Important Life Skills: 

These tools help kids practice essential skills like planning and time management, which they will use throughout their lives. 

5. Build Accountability:

Checklists can identify specific behaviors and steps that help a kid achieve what is expected, whether self-care, doing chores, or being a helpful, cooperative family member.

How to Use Visual Supports

1.. Create a Daily Schedule: 

Let your child participate in creating the daily schedule. They can choose colors, use words, draw pictures, or use images they find helpful. Include morning routines, after-school activities, and evening chores.

2. Make Checklists for Tasks: 

Create a checklist for areas of challenge. It can include morning or bedtime routines, chores, or homework. Note of caution: Be clear about your priorities, as too many checklists at the same time will be overwhelming.  

3. Use Timers: 

Visual timers are a helpful resource. Often, children with ADHD have a poor sense of time or get lost in their area of interest. A visual timer, like the timer, can show how much time is left for each task. It is essential to shift Accountability by giving the child the independence to finish without feeling rushed from the outside.

- Weekly Planning Time:

Spend time together at the start of each week to discuss what's coming up. This way, your child knows what to expect and feels involved in the planning.

Visual schedules and checklists are potent resources for helping your child feel more confident and capable. As you employ them, your child learns these tools to support themselves as they grow and move out into the world. Remember, it's not about controlling your child; it's about guiding and helping them to become capable and independent. Using visual tools gives them the power to use a stable, consistent resource that becomes a vital tool for life!